Too often, narcissistic abusers are careless, or even calculated, in exposing children to mature content, pornographic content, or disturbing video games that leave children confused and traumatized.

If you’re divorcing a narcissist, brace yourself (if it’s not already underway) for a smear campaign that could reach your family, friends, neighbors, coworkers, employers. But don’t despair, because many survivors have experienced and gotten through the narcissist’s smear campaign with their dignity intact. Here’s what you need to know. 

Learn one important practice to stay grounded as you experience the trauma of divorcing a narcissist.

 Most of us come onto the battlefield saddled with a great deal of trauma from our marriages. 

Then, entering the family court system, intense stressors and traumas can come at us from all angles. As we work toward a strategic mindset, it’s important to establish practices to acknowledge and work through our painful emotions in safe spaces.

The court orders are clear. There is absolutely no excuse for the narcissist to violate them - and yet over and over again there are clear violations.

And every time you try to get someone - anyone - to hold the narcissist accountable so that the violations will stop - nothing happens. And the narcissist just gets more confident and the feelings of invincibility grow.

This is one dirty (but predictable) trick in the narcissist’s playbook. 

Just like the narcissistic abuser found ways to control and manipulate you financially during the marriage, they can’t help but try to do so post-separation.

Often, the most effective way they can exercise financial power and control over a victim post-separation, is to simply remove the victim’s ability to access finances.

If you are like many protective parents, you entered into the world of coparenting hoping that things would get better post-separation. But then the reality of post-separation abuse hit you like a brick wall.

If you’re battling to protect your child in the family court system, it’s important that you understand how essential it is to operate from a place of strategy rather than emotion.

Has your attorney gone radio silent during your high conflict divorce or child custody battle? When you’re battling against a narcissist in family court, the last thing you need is an unresponsive attorney.

The child custody battlefield can be a lonely, overwhelming place. A powerful step in strengthening yourself can be found in enlisting the support of a Certified High Conflict Divorce Coach.

If you’re in a high conflict divorce or custody battle, it’s essential that all of your communication with the high conflict individual is strategic rather than emotional.

Family court litigation abuse is just another facet of post separation abuse. Certified High Conflict Divorce Coaches understand this dynamic and can help.

You’ve determined that divorcing your narcissistic spouse is your best option - but many folks get stuck when trying to determine the “right” timeline.

One of the most common ways that narcissistic individuals impose abusive, controlling behavior post separation, is by withholding medical care consent.

A High Conflict Divorce Coach (HCDC) is your strategic partner. You are no longer in the trenches alone when you enlist a HCDC as your trusted team member.

When your narcissistic ex bombards you with messages, you may feel powerless to the fear and frustration. One of the most terrifying and frustrating forms of post separation abuse is stalking and harassment. High conflict and narcissistic individuals often use every means available to them to induce fear in the victim.

The majority of victims experience financial abuse at the hands of the narcissist. In and out of the intimate relationship, financial abuse is a demeaning, stressful, and controlling tactic that abusers use to keep victims feeling depleted and powerless.

If you’re wondering if you’re a good candidate for our program, you’re in the right spot! Maybe you fought on the battlefield alone, and never want another survivor to have that experience.

Narcissistic abusers use legal threats to intimidate and harass victims. But are the threats valid? Often, victims experience post separation abuse in the form of legal threats.

If you’re divorcing a narcissist, your mental health must be prioritized. The effects of post separation abuse can have profound effects on a survivor’s mental health.

When it comes to divorcing a narcissist, radical acceptance is key. One aspect of radical acceptance is that your financial situation is likely to change.