3 Dirty Tricks Narcissists Use in a High Conflict Divorce
Knowledge is power. Learn the 3 dirty tricks narcissists use against victims in high conflict divorce and child custody battles.
Everything Can or Will Be Held Against You
It’s important to know that the high conflict individual will usually use personal and vulnerable information to try to harm you. Things like:
Mental illnesses (suspected, diagnosed or familial)
Postpartum issues
Substance use
Anything less than stellar in your family history
Health issues
Understanding and preparing mentally for these very painful and low blows can help you get into a strategy mindset. Certified High Conflict Divorce Coaches are trained to help you profile the narcissist so that you can better predict and prepare for oncoming attacks.
The Truth? What Truth?
If you thought the narcissist had a limit to the lies they’re willing to tell, you may be in for a surprise.
It’s shocking how often high conflict individuals perjure themselves in court, telling outright lies on the stand. This coupled with the fact that family court system does not hold people accountable for perjury, is a recipe for disaster. Family court becomes the playground of the narcissist.
Radical acceptance is key here - understanding and accepting that the narcissist will likely tell blatant and very ugly lies on the stand about you, how you parent, and what kind of person you are.
Your High Conflict Divorce Coach can help you develop tools to lean into radical acceptance. Radical acceptance is the first step towards a strategy mindset.
Turning the Tables
No matter how calm you remain, no matter how careful you are to record everything, the narcissist will likely have the audacity to claim that YOU’RE the high conflict individual and that you are the one causing all the problems.
And even though many victims know to expect this particular “dirty trick”, it’s still hurtful! And crazy-making! Your High Conflict Divorce Coach can help you to be grounded in your truth so that the lies do not derail you.
Seeking support is absolutely essential. Our High Conflict Divorce Coaches understand narcissistic and high conflict individuals. They can help you stay rooted in reality, think strategically, and reclaim your power. Find your coach here.
