Post Separation Abuse: Legal Threats
Narcissistic abusers use legal threats to intimidate and harass victims. But are the threats valid?
Often, victims experience post separation abuse in the form of legal threats.
“I can’t wait to take you to trial.”
“You’re going to lose the kids.”
“I’m going to bury you in court.”
“I’m going to subpoena your therapist and show everyone that you are mentally ill.”
Understandably, many victims feel afraid and vulnerable when they receive threats like these. These fears can be destabilizing and paralyzing.
True or False: Determining the Validity of Threats
First off, it’s important to understand that knowledge is power. Many abusers use legal terms like “subpoena” for example, to terrify victims, when they’re not even using it in the correct way.
One of the best ways to determine whether or not a threat is real, is to simply learn more about the legal process. A wise person once said; education is power. Learn everything you can about the family court system and the process (local court rules, applicable forms and court documents, legal terms and if you can, sit in on court proceedings which can be educational and empowering).
Understanding how and when certain legal actions are applied can help you mentally discredit the abuser’s threats, and determine if and how certain threats may actually apply to you.
Support is Essential
Sometimes trauma can make learning feel impossible. Trying to understand a definition or the context of legal jargon can flood our brains.
While a Certified High Conflict Divorce Coach cannot give you a legal advice, they can help you understand legal words in simple terms, and break down context with the examples so that you clearly understand what you’re dealing with. A family court dream team consists of a skilled attorney, a trauma-informed therapist and a Certified High Conflict Divorce Coach.
